About BDSM – Bondage


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Bondage or ligotage is consensually tying, binding or restraining a partner for erotic, aesthetic, and/or somatosensory stimulation. Rope, bondage tape or restraints such as cuffs may be used for this purpose.Bondage itself does not imply sadomasochism. The letter “B” in the acronym “BDSM” comes from the word “bondage”. Aesthetics also plays an important role in bondage.

A common reason for the active partner to restrain their partner is so both may gain pleasure from the restrained partner’s submission and the feeling of the temporary transfer of control and power.Many couples incorporate bondage into their sex lives and find sexual bondage to be relationship-affirming. This sometimes takes the form of a sex game or sexual fantasy enactment. Bedroom bondage games are commonly used as a form of foreplay. They require and imply a level of trust and a surrender of control by the restrained to the active partner. This surrender of control happens voluntarily and under mutual understanding and consent.

The main feature of sexual bondage is that it renders the restrained person vulnerable to a variety of sex acts. The restrained partner is dependent for their sexual satisfaction on the actions of their partner, who may treat the restrained partner as their sex object.
Bondage can be relatively simple to apply, enabling improvisation using household items and little experience. Bedroom bondage is usually mild bondage, with one partner voluntarily being put into restraints by being tied up or handcuffed. Blindfolds are a common part of bedroom play. The restrained partner is then typically sexually stimulated.

Safety Aspects

Bondage is safer when conducted between trusted partners who are fully aware of the risks involved and the precautions necessary to ensure safety, such as informed consent. Partners who are in committed relationships may have a greater basis for trusting each other safety precautions include:

• The use of a “safe word”, or some clear way for the subject to indicate genuine distress and a wish to discontinue, temporarily stop or vary the activities of the play.
• Never leaving a bound person alone.
• Avoiding positions or restraints which may induce asphyxia.
• Making sure that the subject changes positions at least once an hour (to avoid circulation problems).
• Making sure that the subject can be released quickly in an emergency.
• Avoiding restraints which impair breathing. (Gags or hoods which block the mouth can become asphyxial hazards)

Accidents and lasting damage can generally be avoided by very simple security precautions and a rudimentary knowledge of the human anatomy. One very simple safety measure is to ask the subject every so often if he or she is all right. Another is to check body parts like hands and feet for numbness or coldness, which can happen if nerves have been pinched or blood circulation has been blocked. Another is to check for skin discoloration. Skin that does not get enough oxygen turns bluish. If blood can get in, but cannot get out because one of the veins has been blocked, that part of the body turns purple.
If the subject has been gagged or can otherwise not verbally communicate, a different form of the safe word is needed. For instance, they may hum a simple tune, or opening and closing one or both hands repeatedly, or releasing an object held in one hand (such as a rubber ball, or a scarf).

Techniques
Bondage techniques can be divided into several categories:
• Binding body parts, with rope or restraints, such as arms and/or legs, together.
• Spreading out body parts, such as arms and/or legs.
• Binding the restrained partner to an object, such as a cross or a chair.
• Suspending the restrained partner.
• Hindering and/or slowing down the movement of the restrained partner, such as with a hobble skirt or a corset.
• Wrapping the restrained partner up in a material, thus restraining their entire body.

Many people feel that bondage must be “rough and tough”, as seen in many images of bondage erotica, but this is not always true. In so-called “soft bondage”, the active partner can simply hold the restrained partner’s hands together with their own hands, handcuff the restrained partner, or simply order the restrained partner not to move their hands, without using any physical restraint.
A popular variant of bondage considers the artistic and aesthetic part of tying a person up more than the transfer of power and control, or the sexual pleasure. This type of bondage is called “shibari” or kinbaku, and comes originally from Japan.

Bondage Materials

Rope is very often used in bondage as a material for physical restraint. It needs to be soft to avoid chafing the skin and easy to twist and straighten. In Japanese bondage (shibari), only ropes made of hemp or jute are usually used.
Metal is often used in bondage, most often in handcuffs, leg cuffs, thumb cuffs, hooks and chains, and is often combined with other materials. Apart from the durability of metal and the flexibility of metal items, metal appeals to many people because of its tough image and the sheer toughness of being bound by metal items. Metal is practically immune to struggling and escape.
Nylon, polyester and velcro offer a cheaper substitute material for leather restraints and are also durable and strong.
Products made of leather are often used in bondage because of their flexibility and resistance to tearing. Because leather is easy to acquire, care for and work upon, it is one of the most popular materials. Latex is also a popular material especially in the form of tight, figure hugging attire.

Source: Wikipedia extracts.